I saw him first!

In this modern world on online dating, there’s bound to be some crossover. Case in point. I caught up with a thirtysomething friend at a party recently. Newly single, she was relating a funny tale of dating a certain gentleman from RSVP. The date began with a miscommunication over his line of work. She thought he was an accountant and he chortled, ‘no, don’t be silly, I work behind a counter.’ Then she mentioned he lived with six other people in a share house in the eastern suburbs and he thought she was a saddo for living by herself. Hmmm. Something about this story was starting to feel very familiar. Then she giggled that he traded stocks and bonds from a computer in his bedroom.
Suddenly it became clear we had shared more than a funny story. Is his name *Graham!? I shouted, nearly dropping my martini glass. Yes! Is his photo way cuter than IRL? Yes! Is he writing a novel in his spare time? Bingo! Just a few months earlier I had dated Graham. He was the first guy to pounce on me on RSVP when I was new and vulnerable. I had agreed to meet for beers and had found myself running for the hills after a couple of Toohey’s News and a packet of salt and vinegar chips. All his attempts to engage me in another date had failed.
Luckily, in this particular case, there was no competition for the affections of Graham the bedroom bonds trader. But it raised some concerns for me about the right etiquette when you and your friends bump into the same guys online. Like, who has the right of way over a cutie with a good SOH you both added to your favourites list? Should you "kiss" someone you both fancy? And what happens when the same guy "kisses" both of you? Does one of you bow out gracefully, just like in real life? Or are there different rules for online courting?
Tell me, have you ever kissed or dated the same online guy as your mate?! What are the rules for sharing love bytes?

*Name changed to protect the privacy of this RSVP limpet. Please email me for his true identity.