World of Warcraft widows unite!
Have you lost your man to an online fantasy world of druids, dwarfs, elves and trolls? Is he fondling his mouse with more passion than your pinks bits? Wondering how to drag him away from the land of Azeroth to your cousin’s barbecue on Saturday night?
You may have become a WOWW– World of Warcraft widow. And I’m here to tell you, you are not alone. There’s a growing battalion of chicks despairing at how their nice, normal (usually IT employed) bloke took on a split personality and started spending more time with his online ‘guild’ than with them.
I should confess here than I’ve been a WOWW, so I speak with some authority of the matter. My former flame signed up for ‘the game’ a few months into our relationship. Overnight, my shy, sweet geek became a rampaging, bloodthirsty dwarf with an amoury of weapons. He didn’t eat, he barely slept and he took on a pale, stooped, disheveled appearance. I don’t need to tell you our sex life quickly dwindled. Mostly because he never went to bed at when I did (even the Elle McPherson matching brief set couldn’t drag him into the boudoir before 2am). Eventually he started sleeping on the couch, where I would find him most mornings - drooling into his keyboard. Sexy.
Although we managed to iron out some ‘game rules’ in an attempt to limit the time he spent online, I knew I was fighting a losing battle. Whilst I was nagging him about emptying the dishwasher and helping me pick out a new couch at Freedom, his online elves and pixies were using spells to help him conquer bloodthirsty foes and then telling him how brave and manly he was for saving the universe. I was no match for these girls.
I started daydreaming about throwing his laptop off the Sydney Harbour Bridge, or buying a nasty virus and infecting his system. I hated World of Warcraft so much, I considered picketing their offices demanding the release of our boyfriends and husbands.
In the end, though, it really did come down to a simple choice - the game or the girl? And he chose the game.
Tell me ladies - Are you a WOWW? How do you cope with game-playing?
You may have become a WOWW– World of Warcraft widow. And I’m here to tell you, you are not alone. There’s a growing battalion of chicks despairing at how their nice, normal (usually IT employed) bloke took on a split personality and started spending more time with his online ‘guild’ than with them.
I should confess here than I’ve been a WOWW, so I speak with some authority of the matter. My former flame signed up for ‘the game’ a few months into our relationship. Overnight, my shy, sweet geek became a rampaging, bloodthirsty dwarf with an amoury of weapons. He didn’t eat, he barely slept and he took on a pale, stooped, disheveled appearance. I don’t need to tell you our sex life quickly dwindled. Mostly because he never went to bed at when I did (even the Elle McPherson matching brief set couldn’t drag him into the boudoir before 2am). Eventually he started sleeping on the couch, where I would find him most mornings - drooling into his keyboard. Sexy.
Although we managed to iron out some ‘game rules’ in an attempt to limit the time he spent online, I knew I was fighting a losing battle. Whilst I was nagging him about emptying the dishwasher and helping me pick out a new couch at Freedom, his online elves and pixies were using spells to help him conquer bloodthirsty foes and then telling him how brave and manly he was for saving the universe. I was no match for these girls.
I started daydreaming about throwing his laptop off the Sydney Harbour Bridge, or buying a nasty virus and infecting his system. I hated World of Warcraft so much, I considered picketing their offices demanding the release of our boyfriends and husbands.
In the end, though, it really did come down to a simple choice - the game or the girl? And he chose the game.
Tell me ladies - Are you a WOWW? How do you cope with game-playing?




20 Comments:
At January 06, 2007 5:49 PM,
pollypringle said…
I'm not world of warcraft widow but i can relate - my ex used to spend his free time building cities and amassing armies on a similarly time-sucking game known as Age of Empires... a name permanently etched on my BRAIN.
In fact he was more interested in his fake little fantasy world than actually participating in the real world which was increasingly fun for me and anyone else who happened to hang out with us.
There was also far more fantasy swords than pork swords swinging in our relationship - sorry to lower the tone but it's sadly, all too true that gaming and sex go about as well together as, oh, tuna and ice cream.
If i never hear the sound of fake cows mooing and fake battles being fought and fake medieval warlords talking shite and giving each other instruction, it will be TOO SOON.
Next up for me - a man who a) loves the great outdoors and b) knows what a pork sword is and how to use it.
At January 06, 2007 6:56 PM,
reality chick said…
Amen to that ice-cream and tuna sentiment Polly! Age of Empire sounds like an equally dangerous and vile time suckage/relationship damaging weapon of destruction. Take heart, there are men out there who have other fantasies on their mind than how to win the next freakin' medieval battle in some ridiculous online world.
RCX
PS: I embrace the lowering of tone in any reality chick post and the expression pork sword is one of my personal favourites.
At January 09, 2007 1:52 PM,
yummymummy said…
Never, ever let him set up a "study" to play these evil games. That's when it got really bad with my game player. He had a room of his own in which to devote all his time to a game I believe was called "Starcraft." It was one of those games you can never really win, so he could keep playing forever!
At January 09, 2007 2:05 PM,
pollypringle said…
I wonder what's worse - a gaming addiction or a porn addiction? Having lived with a gamer, I have to say I'd welcome a porn addiction anyday. Am I crackers?
At January 10, 2007 5:22 PM,
reality chick said…
What a curly question Polly! I personally think the porn addict is worse, because he keeps it secret. Also - I'd rather see a druid or a warlock pop up on my screen, than a thursting threesome....that's just my take! RCx
At January 10, 2007 7:14 PM,
pollypringle said…
A thursting threesome? What is a thursting threesome? Maybe I should watch more porn to find out? :)
At January 11, 2007 12:36 AM,
Fluffster said…
I lost my ex to Guild Wars - guess what you can meet you friends online and go to the pub with them - beats doing it in real life anytime!
Oh yes, and I got a lovely black see-through negligee with velcro pants and stood next to him very late one night at the computer - he glanced, said "very nice" and continued playing.
God!
At January 11, 2007 10:35 AM,
reality chick said…
It is a sad day indeed when a red-blooded male chooses a computer game over velcro pants! Hope you still have that hot outfit Fluffster, and are putting it to good use with someone who appreciates it. RCX
At January 11, 2007 10:39 AM,
reality chick said…
Polly - everyone is doing thursting threesomes these days. Get with it.
Ok, Ok...even a superhero needs spellcheck. Of course I meant "thrusting."
At January 11, 2007 11:18 PM,
pollypringle said…
Everyone needs a little thursting, doo-wop, doo-wop.
At January 12, 2007 1:12 AM,
Fluffster said…
p.s. I never wore the outfit again, and I tore it up after an awful arguement. Let's just say I didn't feel attractive enough to wear it...
At January 12, 2007 1:13 AM,
Fluffster said…
Yeah, whilst I wanted the pork sword, he was using the online sword - it's not the same when your partner is waking you up at 3am for a "sesh".
I ended up quashing my "pork sword" loving - something that is entirely wrong!
At January 12, 2007 1:14 AM,
Fluffster said…
My ex had an "office room".
He would be upstairs playing Guild Wars, I was downstairs watching Coronation Street - great for a 31 year old man and a 28 year old woman!
Give me knitting any day!
At January 12, 2007 11:25 AM,
reality chick said…
Forget knitting Fluffster...get yourself a sewing machine and put that sexy outfit back together or sew yourself a new one! You are one hot lady and don't you forget it.
PS: I used to watch Desperate Housewives whilst my ex was in our "Office room" playing WOW. I'm not sad those days are over!
At January 20, 2007 1:09 PM,
tiger said…
I can see how some guys can get right into the whole online fantasy games.
Its usually because they're lacking some level of control or skills in the real game of life.
In the online fantasy world, they feel a crazy rush of POWER as they conquer worlds and whatnot.
Online fantasy games never appealed to me because in the end, its just a waste of time.
Plus you cant spoon a computer.
..well not comfortably
..no i haven't tried!
At January 20, 2007 1:14 PM,
tiger said…
haha.. Pork sword!
I swear this is the first place i've ever heard that term.
But shouldn't it be porking sword ?
As i would think that only a pig would carry a pork sword.. or maybe a chef who chops em up..
At January 20, 2007 4:09 PM,
reality chick said…
Hey Tiger,
I reckon you're spot on with this observation - but in the end power and control in the land of Azeroth isn't worth a damn compared with conquering the real world. Mmm, spooning a computer...I haven't been there either...but I'm betting it's not nearly as squishy and sexy as a human being.
PS:Glad to see you've added the classic "pork sword" to your general vocabulary!
At January 30, 2007 6:11 PM,
ZoGirl said…
I've got to tell you I am currently living with a serious WOW addict, and as I red your first comment I cried. Not just because I really did think I was alone in my battle against the game, but also because I'm feeling like I'm loosing my battle. My boyfriend of 4 years has been a major addict for the last two, (especially since his mother passed away 12 months ago).
I can understand the escape he must get from that world but I think he honestly doesn't realise the effect it is having on our relationship.
You guys can probably relate to just wanting a 'normal' boyfriend....?
I feel pathetic waiting for him in bed every night, believing the promises that he'll only be 15 minutes then getting furiously upset at 3 or 4 am when we have be at work (yes we work together) by 8. But now at least I know Im not alone, even if this does break us up at least I wont be as hard on myself now I know it happens
At January 30, 2007 6:22 PM,
Anonymous said…
I've got to tell you I am currently living with a serious WOW addict, and as I red your first comment I cried. Not just because I really did think I was alone in my battle against the game but also because I'm feeling like its a loosing battle. My boyfriend of 4 years has been a major addict for the last two, (especially since his mother passed away 12 months ago).
I thought I was being pathetic waiting for him in bed every night, believing the promises that he'll only be 15 minutes then getting furiously upset at 3 or 4 am when we have be at work (yes we work together) by 8. But now at least I know Im not alone, even if this does break us up at least I wont be the only one.
At January 30, 2007 6:48 PM,
reality chick said…
oh zogirl, my heart reaches out to you. I KNOW what it's like to play the waiting game in bed, and I remember how desperately I battled for my ex-boyfriend's attention against the seemingly unstoppaple forces of WOW. I was frustrated, upset, angry and felt so left out. It's hard to know how to reach out and reclaim your relationship. Check out this link for some affirmation that some guys can escape the WOW clutches and get back on track.
http://soulkerfuffle.blogspot.com/2006/10/view-from-top.html
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