Thursday, 28 June 2007

Matrimony.com

Marriage is Forever at the Indian matchmaking site, bharatmatrimony.com. Or so the tagline says. Makes RSVP's Where More Australians Meet a little non-committal.
Over at this thriving matrimony website (dating is for wimps, people) business is booming. Ten million users, 750 employees and 27 offices around the world. It was started in 1997 by single IT dude Murugavel Janakiraman as a way of meeting more chicks. Incidentally, he hooked up with his soul mate, Deepa, on the site and the pair tied the knot in 1999. Nothing like practising what you preach, eh? Since then, the site has recorded the highest documented number of marriages online. Not bad – though it would probably struggle to beat adultmatch.com for the highest number of one-night stands. And there’s even bonus pre-marriage and marriage counseling if you’re having trouble making things work.
So what’s the difference between Bharamatrimony and other online dating sites? Well, on this site, parents (that’s right, those people you used to live with when you were small) frequently create the profiles for their offspring. This can be quite amusing at times. One optimistic mum described her son’s hobbies as 'crosswords, bookclubs, card games and the internet'. Hmm, whilst this may be true, I’m quite sure the gent in question would rather his mum had described his interests as 'snowboarding, car-racing and world travel'. Some of the parental units get quite specific about what they’re after for their child in terms of a partner. "I want an IT professional," Mrs Kahtoon says, "preferably someone based in London, or someone who has the opportunity to work overseas in the future."
Guess that rules out heart surgeons, astronauts and rocket scientists. You can check out more on Mrs Kahtoon here.
Having a surf on Bharatmatrimony.com makes me think – how good would my parents be at finding my soul mate online? Would they in fact have better judgement that I do when it comes to finding a life partner? Judging from some of my past relationships – perhaps they would.
Tell me: Would you ever let your Dad have a crack at your online profile? Are parents actually the best matchmakers around?

11 Comments:

  • At June 28, 2007 11:13 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I'm at the stage where I almost - i say almost - would hand the gauntlet over to my mother. This evening, we talked about this very thing:
    Me - 'Mum, I think Gen X just doesn't have the staying power for long-term relationships."
    Mum - 'I hate to admit it, but i have to say I agree. Maybe you need to radically lower your standards.'
    Depressing, huh? I think I may go join Onionbahji matrimony or whatever it was. Like, right now.

     
  • At June 29, 2007 9:32 AM, Blogger reality chick said…

    You perfect man might actually be on this site, but you'd have to get past his Mum first! Try not to lower your standards anon. They are there for a reason :-)

     
  • At June 29, 2007 9:34 AM, Anonymous pollypringle said…

    online matrimony! i've been waiting for a site like that my whole life ;)

     
  • At June 29, 2007 9:50 AM, Blogger reality chick said…

    Isn't is brilliant? Skip all that getting to know ya stuff and move right to the I dos!

     
  • At June 29, 2007 12:20 PM, Anonymous Peter Pan said…

    Having just spent 2 weeks in India I have an interesting perspective here.

    An Australian mother of Indian origin who I was travelling with, told me that if her Australian-raised son didn't marry by 28, she would do it for him. That is the latest that he is still marketable for an arranged marriage in the Indian system. She also said that Internet dating is really a reflection of what Indian parents have been doing for generations. Matchmaking based upon categories.

    Then I met one of her friends in India who has a younger Indian daughter. That Indian mother was decrying the American influence over the younger Indian generation that work in call centres and start to speak and think like Americans. After spending 2 years in a call centre at say age 18, an Indian girl is often no longer 'fit for an Indian marriage'. She even recounted the fact that the plumbing in these call centres had to be changed regularly because so many...ahem...prophylactics were being flushed down them. Also, foil used for drug taking was the other problem clogging up the sanitary systems.

    After returning to Australia, I also had a conversation with an Australian-Indian male. He mentioned that he is receiving some bad karma for 'taking a western approach to women' over the last 10 years he has been here.

    It makes you wonder...maybe there is some wisdom in the way Indian parents do it for their children. If marriage is not a dying institution (as many in the west believe) and is still something to uphold, Indians can claim lower divorce rates from their approach.

     
  • At June 29, 2007 2:12 PM, Anonymous The Sea said…

    I long ago told my parents I was handing over to them - they have waaay better judgement than I do.

     
  • At July 02, 2007 11:35 AM, Blogger reality chick said…

    Seems I passed my Indian use by date a few years back...thanks for the insights PeterP. Finding a mate for life is a preoccupation no matter where you live...

     
  • At July 02, 2007 11:47 AM, Blogger reality chick said…

    Mine too The Sea...wise people those parental units...

     
  • At July 04, 2007 10:58 AM, Anonymous The Sea said…

    My lovely newly married ex boyfriend told me HE wants to make up a profile for me and post it on the web - no f***ing way!!!

    I told him I can just imagine what it would say - something completely inappropriate and an unnecessary line or two about tantrum throwing when I don't get my way - it'd reel 'em in.

     
  • At July 04, 2007 11:11 AM, Blogger reality chick said…

    How interesting! Aren't you just the teesy bit curious to see what he would say in a complete profile? I would be!

     
  • At July 04, 2007 11:23 AM, Anonymous pollypringle said…

    God, that would be my worst nightmare too - my exes writing a dating profile for me :-)

     

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