Sick of waiting for the proposal

Reality chick, is it ever a good idea to pressure a guy into proposing? Six months ago I had a gorgeous baby boy with my partner. We’ve been together for over 4 years and are very happy. But he seems in no rush to get on bended knee and make an honest woman out of me. What the...? Out of Wedlock

Ahhh, that old chestnut. The reluctant proposee. I know plenty of girls who gave up on subtlety and simply resorted to ultimatums – the ring or the road buddy! And sometimes it does work to put a little pressure on. Dig under the surface of your gal-pals' long-awaited proposals and quite a number of them will have informed their man beforehand it was time for wedding bells to start chiming. Some even go so far as to set a date for the proposal. Writing it on their fridge along with the shopping list and Auntie Jean’s postcard from Venice.

I can see why you’ve held off tightening the screws though. It smarts to have to push and poke a guy for that special question. Sheesh. You’d think after bearing his child and putting up with all his foibles (and every man has them) for years on end, he’d be begging you for happily ever after. But no. The male species can be hesitant (or just downright lazy) when it comes to marriage. In these modern times, who could really blame them for thinking, ‘Hell. I’ve got the girl, the house, the sex on tap and the baby. Why bother with the expensive ring and stuffy party?’ I could go on, and on with this topic. But here’s the thing. I think the time for wishing and hoping, and planning and praying ended the day you squeezed a seven pound baby out of your nether regions.
Sit him down, tell him you want to get hitched and give him 3 months to find a nice way to ask you. If you want an extra sweetener, mention that you don’t need the $15,000 Tiffany ring and you’d be happy with a low key, affordable ceremony. You do want a kick arse honeymoon without the kid however... perhaps to Africa on safari? Then sit back and wait. Hopefully, your boy will be smart enough to think of a sweet, original way to ask you to be his wife. Or even a not so original way. Let’s face it. You deserve it.
Love, reality chick

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