I've got a toy boy, now I want a baby

I'm 36 and have been dating a mature 28-yo guy for two years. I'd love to have a baby, but I know he's not keen (yet). Am I mad to wait until he's ready? I coo over every baby I see and have visions of flushing the odd birth control pill down the loo, just to hurry things along. Andy, Coogee, NSW

Yup, waiting for a guy to get that paternal feeling can be downright torturous - after all, timing's everything in relationships. But tempting as it is to can your contraception, I'd sound him out instead. Does he see a future for you guys? Preferably a future in which he'd happily strap on a Baby Bjorn if necessary? And if so, when? Daunting questions, I know, but you're 36 and after two years, you've got a right to some honest answers. If his best is an indefinite time frame, cut your losses and run. After all, parenthood is sure to be sweeter with a guy who hasn't been duped into becoming a dad.
Love, reality chick