Can’t stop being suspicious of my bisexual girlfriend
Jan 12th, 2012 | By reality chick | Category: Featured, IWL, Sex, love + lust
How do I deal with a bisexual girlfriend? In the beginning I thought I would be fine with that, but lately I have been suspicious of every single interaction she makes with a girl and I fear being dumped by someone who can give her something I don’t have (like a vagina, for instance). I know girl on girl action is much different from straight sex, and I don’t know if she is OK having only this last one or if she misses having sex with other chicks. I am too jealous to allow us having a menage, not that she ever mentioned this. Jesus, is it normal to feel my mind this fucked up? Best regards, Bob Fox
Mr Fox (might I say, I love your nom de plume) you are perfectly normal to feel a little unnerved by knowing your girlfriend likes girls and boys. It just opens the playing field that much wider and causes all sorts of insecurities to er, bob, to the surface. Such as – does she like my man sword or would she rather a little minge tonight? Are we both checking out that girl’s bum at the bar? Would she like it if I grew my hair and waxed my legs? Is she going to leave me for Anna, the busty blonde in her accounts department? The tough love RC would give you this advice: Seriously dude – her bisexuality is NO BIG DEAL. She loves you. You’re committed. She’s having sex with you and presumably enjoying it. You should be secure enough in your relationship not to be suspicious that she’s about to cheat on you – with anyone – male or female. If she wanted a girlfriend, she wouldn’t be going out with you. GET OVER IT. Stop obsessing and worrying about her cheating on you or dumping you. And also – if she hasn’t mentioned a threesome, for God sake, don’t bring it up. That’s more of a male porn fantasy, anyway. The more understanding RC might say – yeah Bob, that’s a tough one. If you can’t handle a bisexual gal, then perhaps you should just get a straight shooter. Take your pick or go with a little from column A and little from column B.
Love, reality chick
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Bob Fox, I believe that you’re sailing in uncharted waters, and very likely it’s that very fact that’s creating all your emotional turmoil. For the first time in contemporary history, a relationship like yours is becoming more and more “mainstream”.
How about some meetings with a counsellor who’s an expert in the field? Either couples (preferably) or individual therapy for yourself. It “ain’t gonna hurt”.
All the very, very best.
“I don’t know if she is OK having only this last one or if she misses having sex with other chicks.”
Bob Fox – just ask her :)
Brilliant comment Alison. Sometimes we forget to just talk to our partners!