tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128Mon, 08 Mar 2010 23:54:23 +0000setting the record straight on sex, love, dating, romance, relationships and everything in between!http://www.realitychick.com.au/noreply@blogger.com (reality chick)Blogger158125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-1556393958676103956Mon, 08 Mar 2010 04:09:00 +00002010-03-09T10:54:23.847+11:00Reality chick, I’ve been happily married for eight years, and I love my wife, but I’ve got a lot of single mates who love going out on the pull. We go out every weekend, often both nights, and my mates always get me to take my wedding ring off when I’m out with them. It doesn’t mean anything and it’s not because I plan to do anything, just because my mates think they’ll have a better chance of http://www.realitychick.com.au/2010/03/i-took-wedding-ring-off-wifes-mad.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-6959071113924917529Wed, 24 Feb 2010 21:08:00 +00002010-02-25T08:11:42.519+11:00I’ve been single for about 8 months now. I don’t mind being on my own but I do miss sex. My friends are all hooked up so it’s hard to go out and meet people. I’m no prude and I’m happy with no-strings sex right now so I’ll take any suggestions! Getting a bit sick of my many vibrators - ha! Ha! HM I’m guessing you haven’t joined a dating site yet – otherwise you wouldn’t be here. You’d be besiegedhttp://www.realitychick.com.au/2010/02/just-cant-get-no-satisfaction.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-4178481187138260733Sat, 20 Feb 2010 08:37:00 +00002010-02-20T19:38:57.282+11:00Reality chick, how can I get my girlfriend to want more sex? We had loads in the beginning and now we do it once a fortnight, if that. We’ve been together five years and I’ve tried everything to get her in the mood, nothing works, she’s always too tired, too busy, too whatever. But when I get mad and remind her how long it’s been she pulls away and makes me wait even longer til the next time. Jimhttp://www.realitychick.com.au/2010/02/secret-to-getting-more-sex-from-my-girl.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-2157296563378041912Mon, 15 Feb 2010 13:22:00 +00002010-02-22T23:45:50.422+11:00I got drunk recently with workmates and ended up shagging a colleague I’ve fancied for ages. We’ve started dating, but I think our company has policies about inter-office relationships – and while I like this guy, I really don’t want to lose my job, either. Any ideas? Liz Well, a whopping 80 percent of people believe it's acceptable to date a workmate, according to a recent survey - and 57 http://www.realitychick.com.au/2010/02/ok-to-date-my-shaggable-co-worker_16.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-5049752981387171922Sat, 13 Feb 2010 16:15:00 +00002010-02-14T12:09:24.361+11:00Happy Valentine's Day gang! Does someone love you? Mosey on down the page below to find out. I'll be putting up more messages during the day - so if you've forgotten the flowers and are searching aimlessly for a way to get yourself out of the doghouse, why not click on that V Day button? Bad poetry, gooey heart-pourings, saucy pet names, grovelling apologies etc all welcome here. In fact, it's http://www.realitychick.com.au/2010/02/your-2010-valentines-messages.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-8817094666779135493Fri, 12 Feb 2010 02:14:00 +00002010-02-12T13:24:52.848+11:00I know I’ve left Valentine’s Day til the last minute, so HELP – I really need some cool present ideas for my girlfriend! I don’t have heaps to spend so I can’t really go the red roses route, but maybe other flowers? Food? Or cute gifts that don’t cost the earth? I’m Sydney-based, if that’s any help. Matt Hey Matt. There's still plenty of time, so don't panic. If you want to get her some flowers, http://www.realitychick.com.au/2010/02/last-minute-valentines-gifts-for-my.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-649231203326028178Thu, 11 Feb 2010 05:26:00 +00002010-02-11T16:27:44.316+11:00Hi reality chick, hope you can help me. I’m 30 and have been dating a guy for about five months. My friends insisted on setting us up and I was OK about it because he’s a nice guy. He’s good to me, has a responsible job, is great to my family etc. He’s different to the kinds of guys I have dated before. Everyone loves him. They keep telling me that. They’ve even hinted that we’re so great http://www.realitychick.com.au/2010/02/how-can-i-start-fancying-my-boyfriend.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-6767296299887930127Tue, 09 Feb 2010 04:06:00 +00002010-02-09T15:11:38.614+11:00I’m over my ex. REALLY over him. We broke up a year ago, on Valentine’s Day (he always had crappy timing) and he just rang me to announce that he’s getting married. We never even came close to it – in fact we fought about when he might actually be ready to do it – and now he’s getting hitched to some chick he’s known six months. We were together for 4 years, and I just can’t stop obsessing about http://www.realitychick.com.au/2010/02/my-ex-got-engaged-and-im-mad.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-2593888101075915257Fri, 05 Feb 2010 01:21:00 +00002010-02-05T12:26:37.708+11:00I broke up with my boyfriend of three years a week ago. Only problem is, we still share a two-bedroom flat. I’m desperately trying to get a new rental or a room, and so is he, but we may have to wait another few weeks. Meanwhile, we’re in separate beds, it's super awkward and I am so miserable. Should I just move out and pay for somewhere temporary? Jenny Breaking up, but not moving out, is one http://www.realitychick.com.au/2010/02/living-with-my-ex-is-killing-me.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-8884781322522036725Tue, 02 Feb 2010 10:36:00 +00002010-02-02T21:38:11.496+11:00My boyfriend and I socialise a lot with my best friend and her husband, and recently we went away with them on their boat for the weekend. At one point when they were alone, my boyfriend and best friend hooked up – I only know this because my boyfriend came clean about it once we got home (although he’s fairly vague about the details) and says he confessed because he was sorry. He feels it was a http://www.realitychick.com.au/2010/02/they-cheated-should-i-rock-boat.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-1393751599827199885Mon, 01 Feb 2010 07:25:00 +00002010-02-03T12:19:42.231+11:00I'm 36 and have been dating a mature 28-yo guy for two years. I'd love to have a baby, but I know he's not keen (yet). Am I mad to wait until he's ready? I coo over every baby I see and have visions of flushing the odd birth control pill down the loo, just to hurry things along. Andy, Coogee, NSW Yup, waiting for a guy to get that paternal feeling can be downright torturous - after all, timing's http://www.realitychick.com.au/2010/02/ive-got-toy-boy-now-i-want-baby.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-5754158828241862364Fri, 29 Jan 2010 04:36:00 +00002010-02-03T12:07:17.310+11:00Yoo-hoo, guys and gals... did you miss me? Hope 2010 is being good to you so far - and big hugs if it's not. On that note, step away from the family-sized tub of ice-cream and drop me a line with all your relationship dramas - big or small - because I'm just sitting here twiddling my thumbs and itching to give you my super-special reality check. Oh, and good news for my Australian readers - from http://www.realitychick.com.au/2010/01/check-us-out-in-nw-magazine-on-monday.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-7202697019386602074Fri, 11 Dec 2009 07:38:00 +00002009-12-11T18:40:52.763+11:00I'm a tall woman. Really tall. Tall enough to be a supermodel (though I don't have the wide eyes and cheekbones), and tall enough to be on the Australian women's volleyball team (if only I were coordinated). I've always found it difficult to meet guys who are as tall as or taller than me, so I've given up and now rather fancy short guys. I find I'm not attracted to anyone over about 5 foot 5 (http://www.realitychick.com.au/2009/12/tall-gal-seeking-short-guy.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-8205240218991634755Wed, 09 Dec 2009 07:05:00 +00002009-12-09T18:17:36.876+11:00Dear reality chick, I'd love to hear your opinion. I'm in a long-term, very committed relationship that gives me great companionship and lots of laughs and stability and wonderful friends but I'm afraid it just doesn't fulfil my need for passion and a sense of connection with a 'soulmate'. I find myself looking for this connection with other people and I'm upset with myself for not being totally http://www.realitychick.com.au/2009/12/no-passion-with-my-partner-help.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-5954912142054196301Wed, 02 Dec 2009 22:53:00 +00002009-12-03T10:00:42.521+11:00I recently had what I thought was a very promising first (RSVP) date with a guy who was attractive, smart and funny. Conversation flowed easily, I thought there was a spark. At the end of the date he told me what a great time he'd had; how we should definitely do it again soon; and to let him know anytime I was free for a drink/movie/dinner etc. He even said 'in the meantime, feel free to email http://www.realitychick.com.au/2009/12/how-to-decipher-dates-mixed-signals.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-7858585063990150293Wed, 02 Dec 2009 05:05:00 +00002009-12-02T16:17:09.701+11:00Reality chick, is it ever a good idea to pressure a guy into proposing? Six months ago I had a gorgeous baby boy with my partner. We’ve been together for over 4 years and are very happy. But he seems in no rush to get on bended knee and make an honest woman out of me. What the...? Out of Wedlock Ahhh, that old chestnut. The reluctant proposee. I know plenty of girls who gave up on subtlety and http://www.realitychick.com.au/2009/12/sick-of-waiting-for-proposal.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-4722602426144209057Mon, 30 Nov 2009 02:57:00 +00002009-11-30T14:03:14.146+11:00I’ve just started sleeping with my boyfriend. I wish I could say it’s excellent all round, but the truth is I’m finding his ‘O’ face a bit freaky. I’ve watched guys’ faces during sex before, but his is so incredibly contorted, it’s totally creeping me out. Jess Sheesh. To think I was hoping today would bring a question on solving world hunger. Okaaaay. Putting myself in your shoes... I would do.http://www.realitychick.com.au/2009/11/not-loving-his-ohhhh-face.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-962499084408305911Mon, 23 Nov 2009 23:19:00 +00002009-11-30T14:07:38.818+11:00I’m 33 and I’ve been seeing a great new guy, a 37-year-old banker, for six weeks. Last night he took me out to dinner and said he’d like to have kids, really soon. And if I wasn’t ready, he would have to move on. Yikes! This is a real role reversal for me. I’d love to start thinking about having a few rug rats – but I’ve only just met him. Am I right to feel freaked out?! Eggalicious RC has beenhttp://www.realitychick.com.au/2009/11/he-wants-babies-but-weve-just-met.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-9044088340848605285Fri, 20 Nov 2009 05:33:00 +00002009-11-25T01:03:37.508+11:00Hello, hoping you can help. I’m engaged, but I think I’m getting cold feet due to my fiance’s temper. It has become worse over the years (or he’s just less able to control it). He has extreme road rage towards other drivers whenever we’re in the car and even on the footpath he often makes it difficult for others to pass us. He simmers and sulks if I hang back to let others by. He has never hit mehttp://www.realitychick.com.au/2009/11/my-fiances-temper-is-freaking-me-out.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-7972083300998169332Tue, 17 Nov 2009 05:05:00 +00002009-11-25T01:14:05.416+11:00I just moved in with my boyfriend. It’s all good, apart from one little thing. After work, I’m always happy to see him and want to chat over a bottle of wine while we cook together. But I’m lucky to get a grunt before he grabs a beer and goes into the study to research stupid things on the internet. He comes out around dinnertime and is nice as pie to me, but by then I’m cranky at being ignored http://www.realitychick.com.au/2009/11/my-boyfriend-wont-leave-his-man-cave.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-8644925449606965960Fri, 13 Nov 2009 06:32:00 +00002009-11-25T01:20:37.131+11:00I’m in my 40’s, divorced and met a new guy, also divorced, online two years ago and struck up a love match. I don’t have any kids, but he has three in their 20s from his previous marriage and has remained friends with his ex wife. They gather as a family regularly and even went on an interstate trip together. The problem is, I’ve never been introduced to his kids or his ex. I’ve asked, but he http://www.realitychick.com.au/2009/11/two-years-in-still-havent-met-his-kids.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-6361822626656078889Sun, 08 Nov 2009 23:43:00 +00002009-11-09T10:44:41.959+11:00Why oh why do women feel the need to wear so much make-up? My wife used to be moderate about it but ever since she turned 40 it’s beyond extreme; she applies it before I even wake up half the time and even in BED I think she’s got it on. I think she’s gorgeous without it. Ted Have you asked her why she's maxing out the Max Factor all of a sudden? Many women boldly and happily embrace aging in http://www.realitychick.com.au/2009/11/why-oh-why-do-women-feel-need-to-wear.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-6519386505588113620Wed, 04 Nov 2009 04:34:00 +00002009-11-06T15:46:32.815+11:00 Reality chick, I am completely in love with my gay best friend. He's a guy, I'm a girl. No-one comes close to him, he's funny, sweet, handsome, smart and yes, loves cock. To make matters worse he is completely in love with his first gay love and likely to move to Sydney and leave me altogether. Get a life? Find someone new? Yep I've heard it ... but where does an overweight, apparently http://www.realitychick.com.au/2009/11/reality-chick-i-am-completely-in-love.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-3872436224315098416Mon, 02 Nov 2009 22:59:00 +00002009-11-06T15:47:48.775+11:00 Heeeelp! I've singlehandedly planned my wedding but agreed to leave the honeymoon arrangements to my hubby to be. Trouble is, it's two months to go until D day and while we've settled on the destination (Thailand) he hasn't even booked the flights or the hotels. Should I step in, or will that be sending him a message that I don't trust him? Not-a-Bridezilla It’s often the case that in some http://www.realitychick.com.au/2009/11/heeeelp-ive-singlehandedly-planned-my.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37287128.post-6362803466933433133Fri, 30 Oct 2009 05:45:00 +00002009-11-06T15:48:44.010+11:00Dear RC, I'm 38, desperate for a baby and have been looking into doing it on my own for quite some time. But, here's the snag - I've just met a great new guy. We're 3 months in, and my clock is still ticking. Should I tell him my desire to start a family sooner rather than later, or will that scare him off? Sue Wow. Tough one. You’re at the business end of your 30s, staring down a turkey baster http://www.realitychick.com.au/2009/10/should-i-ask-my-new-guy-if-he-wants.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (reality chick)0